Earlier today TMZ broke news that Amber Rose and Wiz Khalifa filed for divorce claiming “irreconcilable differences”. This is just the latest couple this year that has chosen to split after being married or together for some time. Rose and Khalifa join Ciara and Future, Mariah and Nick Cannon, French Montana and Khloe Kardashian and Michael Strahan and Nicole Murphy to name a few. In this day of social media and heightening knowledge of celebrities, it begs the question why are our celebrity couples not able to keep it together? In their own way each of the couples above have been put on a pedestal whether rightfully so or not as having an ideal relationship. And yet each and every one of them has faltered. Where are our Cosbys of 2014?
While concrete details for the reasons of the split between the couples is unknown we can look towards a trend in this country for answers. An alarming 50% of marriages in the US end up in divorce! 50%! That's wild. Young men and women are growing up without a mother or father in the household with frequency and they in turn do not know how to raise a child and the cycle continues. The top five reasons for divorce are pretty clear as well:
1) Poor Communication
4) No longer attracted to one another
Those are the main causes. There are no Cosbys of 2014 because most marriages and relationships lack all of these items listed above. The Cosbys were a successful couple that looked after one another, challenged one another and made each other better. They did this by working hard, being successful in their career and loving their family as much as they love themselves. Social media is one distraction that makes doing all these harder. People can no longer interact in person. People hide behind technology and lack personality or effective people skills to grow. People simply do not want to work on relationships and talk, but rather hide behind a computer screen. In turn, careers lack and things spiral out of control that could lead to abuse or infidelity.
Each and every day there are young men and women of whom look towards celebrities for guidance because they lack it at home. When they see their idols breaking up many accept this and that is unacceptable. As a whole we need to expect more from ourselves and our spouses and leaders of today and tomorrow. Push one another to be successful in our careers. We need to push one another to always communicate and appreciate one another. When you take care of yourself, you're leading by example for the other person to do the same. We don't have to be apart of a statistic, but we can motivate, cultivate and grow to defy that statistic.
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