What are New Years Resolutions really made of? Each and every year millions upon millions of people create lists and bullet points of things they will do or won’t do for a new year. It’s become somewhat of tradition that as the Earth completes an orbit it means humans need to drastically change something in their life. For the past few years I’ve made it a point not to have resolutions, but to achieve across the board. It’s gone well, but in the spirit of evolution I am ready to take things to a new level. While I don’t believe in a designated day to change something about your life that you could have begun last week or last month, I do believe in the power of speaking things into existence, writing them down and holding yourself accountable.
That’s why this year I am completing both a list of quarterly goals and a vision board. I want to always push myself to be the best me socially, professionally and spiritually.
For each goal that I write down I will be sure that each is attainable, but I will also push myself to accomplish some reaches and I will be diligent to add detail. For example, with the rise of cryptocurrency and general stock market I want to invest $1,250 quarterly total. I want to continue to invest in my future. To do so I will learn more about investing and more about different stocks in order to make sure I am making smart and calculated risks. Additionally, in making a vision board I want to see where I am and where I want to go on a daily basis. The truth is, I will never consider myself normal or ordinary in any way and I feel it's to important to me to take the necessary steps to make sure this happens.
My 2018 New Years Resolution is to be conscious of seeing and believing the best be in all aspect of my life. This is something that will not maybe happen, but it WILL happen all year long.
What is it like being a black man living in a white man's world? I just finished reading one man's attempt at answering this question in the book "Makes Me Wanna Holler: A Young Black Man in America," written by Nathan McCall. It's a book that initially after reading the first few pages I almost put down and said it wasn't for me. Something told me to keep reading, keep pushing and I am happy that I did. Personally, I've always known I lived in a world and a country that didn't quite belong to me as most people believe. I grew up in a town of predominantly white people in Oakland, New Jersey. I attended a private university of mostly white people in Syracuse University in upstate New York. Then upon moving to Harlem, New York I went to work in corporate America, dominated by white people. What is it like being an ambitious black man in America that won't settle for anything, but the best? It's simple, it's a daily challenge.
There are few things that the author and I share in common with our lives and even more differences. He grew up in a predominantly black town in Virginia. He went on to attend Norfolk State College in Virginia, a predominantly black college. Then, after serving some time in jail for armed robbery he finished school and went on to lead a productive life in the newspaper business. Stark differences from my own life, and yet as I turned the pages and he matured I felt a strong connection in our on our view of the world. McCall was fortunate to make something of himself after prison and work hard to live in his future and not let his past define him. Yet, he learned time and time again there were a lot of folks who did not want him to succeed. There were coworkers that said he only had his job because of affirmative action. There were old childhood friends that wanted to pull him back to doing illegal things. There were even women who did not have his best interest at heart, but saw what he represented and gravitated towards that. These are some of the things that plague a lot of people every day, but in particular, something that black men think about every second of every day. Am I good enough? Did I work hard enough? Did I earn this?
This book told the life of McCall through the highs and the lows. It was a transparent view of one man's experiences and a personal diary of what a lot of black men go through, but rarely express. I gained so much from reading each page. From shared awkward experiences in the workplace articulated through the text to personal feelings of self-doubt to understanding when it's time to let some friends grow, it's all real and it's actually okay to experience and grow from.
It's not easy living each day to the fullest, but no one said being great was supposed to be easy. Understanding who you are and where you come from and the sacrifices made before you help shape your own future. It's important for individuals to take accountability for their own lives, but it's even more important for each and every person to understand nationalities and backgrounds that they don't live every day. We are taught white America our entire lives growing up. There is small amounts of time spent on people of color, but is our history any less significant? Were we invisible or were we working just as hard to pull ourselves up? I never thought about this until reading this book, but there is such a heavy burden on others to learn about the things not taught in school. Be better and challenge yourself to get to know others who are not like you. Get to know their experiences good and bad. Get to know things that they struggle with on a daily basis, and there is no doubt there are shared experiences between all of us.
It's not easy being a black man in a white mans world, but I kind of like it that way. Each day I have something to prove to no one else but myself. I am worthy, I am great and I am going to live the life I've always dreamed about.
lives by one word: achievement. in anything and everything, achieve.